We all digest information in different ways, so I’m sharing about the money martyr archetype in writing (see below) and via this short video as well. Enjoy!
Have you ever had an experience that totally changed your life?
For me that experience was going through my own money coaching process.
I grew up with a very powerful scarcity mentality, always feeling like I never had enough and believing that I wasn’t worthy or deserving of anything. Unknowingly I developed some deep-rooted subconscious stories during this time that I carried forward with me into adulthood.
They played out in my habits around money and the way I showed up in my life. Always giving everything I had to my family, friends, and colleagues, both financially and with my time. Never putting myself or my needs first. I believed that my place was at the bottom of my list of priorities, and to put myself any higher up the pecking order was selfish.
This behaviour continued until one day I hit a critical point. I knew I couldn’t keep going on as I had been – something had to change in my internal world before I ran myself into the ground and took our finances with me.
That’s when I was introduced to Money Coaching and the Money Archetypes.
I’m a Martyr!
During my coaching journey, one of the Archetypes that was really prominent for me was the Martyr.
On first introduction I liked the sound of the Martyr and thought what great qualities it had, as it presents as more of a giver than receiver, putting others before self.
But as time went on it became obvious that perhaps these qualities weren’t quite as empowering and positive as I first thought!
It was eye opening to see that the Martyr was playing out in so many different areas of my life, and in multiple different ways.
You see, our strongest money behaviours are deeply embedded and can impact our lives in ways we don’t even notice until we really take the time to examine what’s going on.
But once you see them, you can’t un-see them!
It’s this deep dive work that I love doing the most with the women in my Guided Groups. Together we journey inwards to find the links and join the dots to create a picture of their behavioural patterns. This helps us build an understanding of their money stories so that we can then change their unhelpful behaviours.
It’s pure magic and a process that changes their lives, like it changed mine.
The money mirror
Money is energy and holds up a mirror from the past that reflects what’s happening in our present. Whether we like it or not, our money relationship touches everything we do, and manifests itself through our unconscious behaviours.
As an example, one of my past behaviours was constantly buying clothes and gifts for my husband and children. My husband’s wardrobe would end up groaning under the weight of so many clothes, yet when I opened the doors to my own wardrobe, there would be hardly anything in there!
It was that old subconscious belief from my past that I wasn’t deserving of nice clothes and accessories, being mirrored in my present.
This habit was a hard one for me to break but break it I did!
Now my husband can actually see what clothes he has (he’s very relieved!) and I love opening my wardrobe doors to see a beautiful array of gorgeous clothes that I love and feel a million dollars in.
Thoughts become things
Understanding our relationship with money is an ongoing and transformational journey.
When we become aware of our thoughts and behaviours in this area, we begin to work out what’s worth repeating and what’s not!
It’s so important to understand that the thoughts we repeat over and over become our actions, and create our experience of the world we live in.
This is one of the foundational messages I teach to the women in my Guided Groups. Once they understand this, they then become aware of their own thought patterns and each other’s, and so often there’s a common thread that runs through them all. Once they have these new insights to how they think about money, they go all in with supporting each other to choose more helpful and empowering thoughts that align with the women they are here to be.
It’s magical to witness!
When you’re ready to truly know yourself, and have all the things you really deserve, take my free money quiz and then let’s jump on a call and have a chat. I can’t wait to speak with you!