We all digest information in different ways, so I’m sharing about the Victim archetype in writing (see below) and via this short video as well. Enjoy!
Have you ever been called a Victim?
It’s definitely not a nice thing to call someone, and it’s a name that really stings when you’re on the receiving end!
When I talk about the Victim, I’m not meaning it in the slightly insulting way it’s often used.
The Victim I refer to is in fact one of the 8 Money Archetypes that I work with in my coaching practice.
Traits of the Victim archetype
The Victim is a self-sabotager who’s prone to living in the past.
They’re often waiting for a knight in shining armour to swoop in and rescue them. Or they hold the hope that they’ll wake up one morning and a bill fairy will have magically paid all their bills. But the reality is, life is not a Hollywood movie, and for 99.9% of us those things are never going to happen!
Another characteristic of the Victim is resentment. They can be very resentful of things that have happened “to” them and the way a situation has unfolded, which often makes them very unforgiving.
They’re highly emotional and prone to playing the blame game and believe it’s other people’s fault they’re in the situation they’re in!
And when it comes to money, the Victim is financially irresponsible and feels powerless to do anything about their situation.
Forgiveness is key
One of the keys to transforming Victim traits is forgiveness. They need to forgive themselves for whatever has happened in the past.
What I hear a lot from the Victim are things like, “I should have sorted out my money by now”, “I don’t know how to budget”.
The first step with creating any change is awareness – you can’t transform something if you don’t know it exists. And once you know it exists, you’re then able to make a decision to let it go.
What the Victim needs to understand is that they’re living out self-fulfilling prophecies. When you’re regularly telling yourself lies like, “I’ll never be able to do this”, “I’ll never be financially secure”, “I’ll never have enough money”. Well guess what, hey presto life delivers you exactly that experience!
That is classic Victim behaviour because none of those things are true.
Life is not happening “to” you
As you might have guessed, there’s a lot about the Victim that feels powerless and a bit resentful. There’s a flavour of ‘life is happening “to” me’, as if it’s coming at them from all directions and they have zero control over any of it.
Life simply does not work that way though! Life happens through us, for us, with us. We are co-creating with the universe every step of the way.
At the point when the Victim grows tired of their old drama, that’s when they’re ready to change their reality. That’s when it’s time to go inward and find out what the beliefs and behaviours are that are stopping them from moving forward and out of victimhood.
It’s challenging work and can often feel confronting. It’s also vitally important work though that will set the Victim free from the shackles of the past and propel them into a future that they absolutely love.
To find out if the Victim is driving your money mindset, take my Money Quiz and then book a free follow up call so we can talk through your results. And to be clear, this is not a sales call! It’s a value packed call where we connect, I’ll share more about the archetypes, what your scores mean, and give you some easy actions to help you get started with changing your money relationship for good. I can’t wait to meet you!